Remember names and faces with ease
Hey guys, it’s Ron, I want to introduce you to a few of my friends. The guy on the far left is Steve, next is Brian, Jason, Clay and that’s me on the far right. How many times have you been introduced to somebody and two seconds later you can’t remember what they said their name was? Could you recall the names of my friends? If you’re like most people then this happens all the time. I’m going to teach you how to remember names and faces of people with ease.
Maybe you watched me on the National Geographic show Brain Games. When I was on Brain Games they had me meet a room full of people and as they came through the door I repeated their names back to them. I’m going to show you exactly how I did that in five easy steps. These five steps are; focus, file, picture, action, and review.
You shake someone’s hand and two seconds later you forget their name. It’s not because you have a bad memory, it’s because you weren’t listening and you weren’t focused. The most honest thing you could say is “Hey, a few minutes ago when you told me your name, well I wasn’t listening”. But you’re not going to say that, no one would, it’s just not polite. If you’re not focused you’re not gong to remember their name. You may be asking “how do I focus?”. If you’re walking towards someone and you know you will be told their name get into the habit of asking yourself “what is their name”. Repeat this to yourself right up to the point of them telling you their name. Remember though not to say it out loud, you may get some funny looks. This simple act will help focus you so that you can remember names.
Think of it like when you store something on your computer. When you have a document you want to save you save it to a file called my documents so when you need it later you go directly to that file and open it. Your computer needs files for you to be able to retrieve information and your brain is the same way. So in this step you need to select a file on their face that will help you remember their name. The files will be landmarks or locations on their face. For example Jay Leno has a big chin, it’s a feature that stands out and easy to remember. Those distinguishing features will become your files or locations you will go back to later to remember their name.
Now you need a picture that corresponds to that name. Have you ever said before “I’m so good with faces, I never forget a face but I just can’t remember names”? Well you remember the face because you saw the face, you didn’t see the name. The mind remembers what it sees so that means we need to create a picture for the names that way you can SEE the name along with the face. Let’s try a common name like Steve. When I see the name Steve I think of a stove. So my picture for the name Steve would be a stove, Brian would be a brain, Jason would be a blue jay, and for Clay would be…..you guessed it, clay! Pretty simple right?
You need to see the pictures with tons of action and emotion because that is what your brain will remember. Let’s go back to the picture of my friends, and take a look at Steve. Remember Steve, he’s the one on the far left, now let’s put apply the steps to Steve.
- Focus – What’s his name – Steve
- File – Pick a distinctive feature – Bald head
- Picture – name Steve – Stove
- Action – Imagine his bald head cooking in a pot on a stove
The fifth and final step is review. At the end of every day get in the habit of asking yourself “who did I meet today?”. While do that also try to recall what their distinguishing feature was and what was the picture that you saw with that feature. You can do this before bed, or even driving to work. The important thing to remember is that once you create a picture for a name (i.e.: Steve = stove) that will be the picture associated with that name from now on. So the next time you run into these people instead of trying to recall their name ask yourself what stood out the most to you about them and what it was that was on/in that feature.
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